3 Simple Ways to Spend Time Together as a Christian Couple

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Trying
to find quality time to spend together as a couple can be a challenge. I know
for my husband and I, it’s always a balancing act to even find a few minutes of
quality time together. It took us almost two weeks to plan this recent night
out with family at a local restaurant.

After
placing our order and a few minutes of conversation, all of us at the table had
turned to our phones. One was checking the score for a basketball game, another
flipping through Instagram, the other playing an online game, and I was
replying to messages. All of us focused on our own digital world until the food
arrived at our table. It’s a scene that has become all too familiar at
restaurants. Just look around the next time you’re out.

Families
are spending less time together. One study revealed that an average family
spends about 37 minutes a day on quality time together and
that’s during the weekdays.  The weekend
days were a bit better at 2 hours and 40 minutes. But why is it important to
make time for meaningful activities with our marriage?

Why A Strong Christian Marriage
Is Important

There
are, of course, the issues that we often hear about—

But
it can be argued that these are simply symptoms of how family values are changing, impacting the
ability of most families to maintain a Christian household. It’s also not
surprising to find out that more and more people are walking away from their
faith
,
including those who may have have been raised as strong Christian men and
women. I imagine it must have been like the verse we’ve heard many times about
what it was like living during the time of Noah.

“[When
I return] the world will be [as indifferent to the things of God] as the people
were in Noah’s day. They ate and drank and married—everything just as usual
right up to the day when Noah went into the ark and the flood came and
destroyed them all. “And the world will be as it was in the days of Lot: people
went about their daily business—eating and drinking, buying and selling,
farming and building—until the morning Lot left Sodom. Then fire and brimstone
rained down from heaven and destroyed them all. Yes, it will be ‘business as
usual’ right up to the hour of my return.   
Luke 17:26-30 TLB

But
while values continue to change, over 60% of the population still feel that family plays
a central role in their identity, making it important to learn how to
strengthen your marriage and your family.

A wooden shelf with decorated with Bible verse inside a picture frame, Isaiah 32:16 God’s people will be free
from worries, and their homes peaceful and safe.

Spending Time to Strengthen Our
Marriage

As a
person raised in the 90s, I’m thankful my parents didn’t have to wean us off
our tablets and phones and made it a point for us to sit down, look each other
in the eye and eat together. But in today’s digital world, even though we’re
physically spending time together, we’re not necessarily mentally present to
reap the benefits of quality family time.

So
my husband and I made a plan.  While we
won’t be able to go on fancy vacations and none of us have the energy to stay
up longer, just to increase the amount of time we have together, we’re
committed to three meaningful activities that we can do together as a family.

1.  
Volunteer Together as a Family

My husband and I are very much involved with the Church Of Christ. His technical background
allows him to help out with various events that our congregation holds, while I
can help with documenting them as part of the Church Of Christ’s media
department. 

In addition to that, the Church Of Christ regularly
sponsors community cleanups, donation drives such as canned food drives, and appreciation days that
welcome family volunteers and have been a great way for us to participate in
our community together.

A couple smiling together outdoors in front of an iron gate and banner that reads Blood Donation Activity.

2.  
Pray Together Daily.

Most days we only have a few minutes to catch up on
the day’s events. While those are conversations I always look forward to,
spending those precious few minutes praying together as a family helps us
tackle the big challenges in front of our family by asking God’s help together.

I’ve had some recent health challenges that had me
bedridden for a few months. Feeling drained and exhausted day after day, and
the numerous doctor appointments was overwhelming. Not only did it take a toll
on me but it affected my family as well. Through it all, coming together in
prayer with my family continues to help me know that we’re in the struggle
together.

3.  
Worship Together

Our schedules can get hectic and with the traffic on
the island of Oahu, sometimes we have no choice but to worship God at different
times. However, as much as possible we block off time that we can go to the
place of worship and worship God together. Even though we’re not talking with
each other or physically sitting by each other, the shared experience with the true teachings of God helps us connect. And
it allows us to spend time afterward talking about what we learned from the
lesson.

The Church Of Christ now has congregations around the world, some with multiple
worship service schedules to allow more people to worship God in more places.

In
addition to the worship schedules, the Church Of Christ supports maintaining a
strong Christian family by encouraging families, whether it’s just the husband
and wife or a family of five, to set a time dedicated for a family hour, as
well as launching events geared towards young members, for married couples, and
the whole family.

Five
days out of the week—balancing work, school, after school or extra-curricular
activities, taking care of pets, and other daily responsibilities—most families
can only find about 37 minutes of quality time together. How will you spend
your 37 minutes?

We
invite you to learn how your family can grow stronger together through prayer.

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About the Writer: Liza Corpuz-Tiangsing and
her husband Ben are from two different islands in Hawaii and were introduced
after moving to the US Mainland for college. After spending a few years in the
SF Bay Area helping lead youth members in the Church Of Christ, they moved to
Oahu where they currently reside and where Liza spends her days writing and
responding to inquiries on incmedia.org.

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